Gollum, Katiekate and Laurie - thank you all for your posts!! There is some really great ESH in this thread - and it's just the kind of stuff I needed to remind myself of today.
(((HUGS))) Wing. Just hang in there and keep doing what you're doing and moving forward. And you hit the nail on the head with that quote about loving and how addicts simply are not capable of it. You're doing GREAT!!