Dear Bobo, I have a 23 year old son who has been a heroin addict since age 20. He did terrible things that have landed him in jail for three different occasions (read my old posts for history if need be). It appears that your young daughter is struggling in pleasing you by saying she is sober, but your gut tells you it is not so.... I think the xanex and any benzo is very similar to opiate high so you are still dealing with the addictive behavior. does she indicate any desire for sobriety? Is she willing to go to rehab? Otherwise, she is actively addicted and will continue to engage you to find your bottom in supporting her. I totally understand your emotions and your feelings. Hugs,
TT