Hi Beemer,
Welcome to SR.
It sounds like you've been trying like crazy to hold everything together for her, to keep her from the consequences of her drug use. Most of us have found, like you are learning, that doesn't work and only causes more turmoil for everyone.
There is so much help here on this forum. Read, Post and keep coming back. You'll find alot of knowledge here.
Sorry you are going through this but glad you found Sober Recovery.
Peace,
Hanna