My state has a ZERO taping/video taping tolerance law. One of two I think my lawyer said. So while I do tape a lot NOT one bit of it is able to be used as proof.
Yes I have thousands of pages of documenting and xAH is very smart and evil and on every occassion he doesn't show, rages etc... he creates his own journal of events. So we have completely contradictory journals of what is happening and the court is perceiving it as if we are both difficult and unwilling to cooperate. No matter what I do/give/agree to he finds a way to say it's wrong.
I am just about ready to call his bluff and say go for it and live with the girls full time. I think he would last a week maybe and then might be willing to agree to a final arrangement that is reasonable. But am I willing to risk the girls well being for that gamble?
My fear is he will realize that is precisely what I am counting on and he will keep the girls indefinitely and I will be screwed/devastated and the girls will be at risk.