Originally Posted by
Marshmallow 
Is this what a relapse looks like? Will he stop on his own? If you have any advice I would appreciate it. he is not home from work yet. I cant even talk to him when he is high or drunk. He has never been like this before.
Sure it's a relapse, as to whether or not he'll stop on his own is something that's impossible for anyone to predict. People in the throes of addiction don't make the most rational choices. He may be able to hide it for a while at work but that's unlikely to last if his use increases.
I would try to have someone he respects talk to him, from what you describe he could be putting his job in jepordy.