It sounds like your H is a lot like me bf only he hides his behind hockey. My bf loves hockey. He loves to play it and he loves to watch it. I would never want to take his "hockey" away from him. But everytime he goes to play or watch he has to drink his butt off. So he created this catch 22. If I get angry at him for drinking while he's at hockey he accuses me of trying to take his hockey away and it doesn't matter how many times I say "It's not the hockey it's the drinking" he can turn it so it looks like I'm the jerk and I just want to take his hobby away. He totally ignores the hockey=drinking connection. He uses hockey as an excuse and it's a good one since he does make me feel bad for trying to steer him away from it. Very clever.