Hanna,
Your right. I should change the locks. But I don't want the house. I am saving $ to move.
And I think, Or KNOW your right about the distance between me and MIL. I thought I was doing the right thing by telling her so he is just not out there doing his thing and no one has a clue. But now I think that I have told her I need to get out from under her. She is making a bad situation worse. I could live with it (until I got out) when he would never come home. But she is making that worse....
I have had legal advice. In fact I have hired an attorney... But he suggested I "move some money around" and not just jump the cliff till I had my ducks in a row.