Oh yes, right now, my ex is in the "you are the bad one" mode. I also gave up on him. Abuse is abuse just because they don't hit you but the way they treat you when they are coming down! Moms will always take their side so don't worry about it. You could be worse. My ex's mom uses alongside with him and his dad. But now I'm the bitch cuz I kicked him out and won't let him see the baby til he gets cleaned up.