So very sorry for your pain.I was terrified for my addict husband (opiates /alcohol) to go to prison but even though it did not keep him sober for very long, it was one of the best things for my family. We did not have to guess where he was, what he was doing or what condition he would be in when he returned. He ate someone else's food (and not whatever he chose) had a roof over his head, access to counseling and education and he would most certainly not speak to anyone in there (even though he's a big guy)the way he was on the outside. I hope you and your husband will check into your local Al-Anon group. Take care and best wishes!