Your feelings sound very open and truthful. I have been there before--done with hearing the "poor me" stories from abf. It gets to be too much. I had tried helping and being supportive. I had tried being controlling. I had tried understanding. Then, I just got tired. I finally accepted that I was fatigued, and it was ok. It is not selfish to be tired of it. Anyway, if the addict is really going to recovery, they have to want it and do it on their own. So, it is good for us to admit that we are tired. We've had enough. We are ready to take care of our own needs!! Good for you. You are growing in your recovery.