When the kids are around and he is drinking he is on a better behavior until they go to bed. Then he'll tell me how I'm a ****** mom and need to parent them better.
If you do not think your children hear this, or feel this tension, I can tell you from personal experience that they hear it all. Feel it all.
Please put yourself first, over this raging alcoholic, so you can take care of the children.
What kind of relationship do you have with your ex husband?
Would he help you to lessen your kids exposure to this guy?
I do know what a sad spot you are in, because I have been there. I am a recovering alcoholic, an adult child of an alcoholic and a codependent. I stayed with my ex husband after I found recovery because I thought I could help him and we had two children together. My children are still paying a steep price for that decision.
Your children deserve your never give up attitude
before your aggressive, addicted, abusive man.
Beth
PS, I am so glad you found your way here. You will find support and guidance here from people who have been where you are.
Keep coming back, we care very much. I know I care very much.