I mean, it's just liquid in a glass!!! How can it ruin everything???
because to the alcoholic mind, that "liquid" IS everything. it's not that he can't quit for YOU....he can't quit for himself. it IS that powerful. it's addiction, a physical compulsion and a mental obsession.
that's why ultimatums rarely work: me or the booze (or the pills, or the coke, or the gambling, or the porn....or the hoarding, or the food). to the ADDICT mind you might as well say: me or breathing.