Anathaine, you'll never find a world where there are no predators like this who'll help you out on this essentially downhill slope. As your post states you cannot but seek them out.
I suggest you consider a women based solution. A men free resource run by women who know. A refuge with boundaries.
This site seems to have contacts and links to many resources.
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