Originally Posted by
Nonsensical 
As I lay passed out in my own drool yesterday
She is laying the groundwork to leave me if it becomes necessary.
I don't need meetings and I actually know what I am doing
Take a look at the lines I picked out from your post. Doesn't sound like you "know what you're doing".
I certainly would never push you to do AA, I have plenty of issues with that whole thing. But what's wrong with talking to your uncle Joe? It could help you, and help your family feel at ease. What's wrong with trying something new? Just because it's going to be uncomfortable for you? Recovery is not a rainbow slide that takes you on a cotton candy cloud filled with naked ladies. It's a pain in the ass. Deal with it, give yourself a chance. Maybe listening to your wife for a change wouldn't hurt.