Originally Posted by SoaringSpirits

My counselor gave me some very helpful advice about dealing with the quacking. She said it was an attempt by AH to engage me, and that I needed to keep working on detaching and not letting him have power over me by eliciting a reaction. She had me sit down and write out some pat, non-engaging responses to have ready, no longer than a few words. It really works. Here are a few examples:

"Nice try"
"OK"
"Interesting..."
"Who knows"
"Imagine that!"
"Who knew?"
"Is that the time? Wow, I must go..."

So your answer to the lesbian jab might be "Nice try!" and then you walk away and go do something meaningful. I find the weird conversations that seem to start with his quacking just never get off the ground, because I don't engage, I don't defend, I just muse "Who knew!" and walk away.