I don't think you misunderstood jkb's meaning, soberlicious. Some people want to forget alot, others don't. I was simply sharing my own experiences on my choosing to remember some painful times, and so suggesting to her that it is possible.
Your affirming that if she can't remember what she wants, jkb can of course remain a successful non-drinker is something I'm in agreement with too.
Simply choosing to remember does not in fact always equate with total and detailed recall, is my experience. There are also many memories which have faded for me since quitting drinking too.
