You're embarrassed? Wow, perspective is everything, because from over here you look pretty heroic. Bravery isn't the absence of fear, it's doing what has to be done in spite of the fear. I am so sorry you are going through this. I really admire the way you're handling it, and I hope your wife takes full advantage of this opportunity. I don't see how you could be doing anymore for her. Keep posting, if only to remind yourself you're not alone.