ALLFORCNM - Thank you for that post above. It's hitting me in all the right spots. After my Al Anon meeting tonight I realized that I was trying to do my recovery PERFECTLY. Ummm....helllo. Not possible.
So I came home feeling more relaxed and gentle with myself. Phew.
My husband is likely coming home this weekend after being gone for a little over 3 weeks and has just started going to AA meetings two days ago. He sounds changed already, but I know that time will tell based on his actions and behavior. I'm not getting super excited yet. Just paying attention and being alert and mindful of myself.
I see that i can go to bed with a softer heart, quieter mind, and more relaxed belly now. Thank you. xo