I really dont know if any of that matters. All that matters is that what ever unpleasant stuff that happens between you and him as a result of alcohol will go away. I dont care what my GF shares with me or if im involved at all. Its not on me. Its on her now to stop drinking and find her way. Not me. I refuse to take any responsibility for her drinking or her stopping. I dont take anything she says seriosly anymore threw trial and error. Ya, ive been threw the ringer.