Welcome, Rosie.
Your drinking is not a problem...for me. But that's not really the test, is it? Is your drinking a problem for you? Only you can answer that.
My drinking was a problem for me. Or, rather, the side effects were a problem. You mentioned having a couple of the same side effects that I found problematic; people who love me were worried, and not being able to stop whenever I wanted.
I want to not have a drinking problem. If wishing it away worked this forum would be a pretty dull place. However, it's a vibrant, exciting place because so many of us with drinking problems can rally together for support and find our individual path to sobriety.