Originally Posted by
hello-kitty 
Do they every reach that moment of enlightenment where are able to focusing on their own issues instead of focus on someone elses.
I feel like I've reached that place. I don't have to stop myself any more from butting in where I don't belong, the desire is simply gone. Almost all of my former codie relationships are done. One friend and I have re-established our friendship after a hiatus. We're both recovering but from opposite sides of the fence.
My #1 criteria for relationships these days, is self awareness.