Wow, thanks kitten boo...I needed to hear that. There's much to be processed and sorted out in my mind right now.
Bluebelle - It's extremely hard not to take it personally when it feels like you're having a threesome with him and porn. Porn doesn't make me feel insecure, he can rub himself dry for all I care, but our time together deserves some respect.
As for boundaries, it was wrong of me for not setting them from the beginning. I guess I'm also learning about myself in all of these. Besides the basic boundaries I've always had, I find out about new ones that I share with him as they come.
One day at a time...