Originally Posted by
Anna 
Renaldo, you felt slighted and ignored by your 'friend' and rightly so. I think it's important in recovery to have boundaries in place, as to how we will allow ourselves to be treated. Low self-esteem was such a big problem for me, I had to have strong boundaries and stick with them.
Thanks Anna. I know a woman who ran an Enneagram workshop and she was the "boss" personality and she said, "you put up this gossamer thin boundary and you call that a boundary?"
I'm gonna have to digest all of this and decide the proper course of action. In the meantime I won't call this guy for a while. There's something to be said for forgiveness, but being a doormat is not good either.