Good thread! I do this too. The constant wondering over alcoholic or addicted loved ones, or any loved ones with issues if some kind, can get frustrating. I lie awake most nights, like tonight, wondering about my addict dad. Or thinking about my single mom and my young half siblings in her care. I go over and over the past in my head a million times and imagine deep, get-it-all-off-your-chest type conversations with them that I probably would never go through with in reality. I rack my brain trying to solve all their problems because I believe if I do, then mine will be too because I won't be so burdened with this obsessive thinking. I would be VERY interested in hearing advice on turning this type of preoccupation off. Sorry, no advice here, just saying I can relate.