I wouldn't rely on your man to come back if you've been verbally abusing him. And if he's physically abusive, it's probably best that he stays away. I don't know what your financial situation is, but you could perhaps use this time to focus on yourself and your children.
I too was a normal drinker in my younger years. Most people drank. I continued to the point of health problems. In recent decades I wouldn't consider myself a party animal, but when other friends stepped it down to an occasional event, I didn't. It's predominantly a solitary occupation and just to feel comfortable in my skin. Not for "fun".
I look back on my early drinking career when I would hitch hike around and not even think about beer until evening when I would purchase a 6 pack of Budweiser and maybe drink three of them. Those days are so long gone that it almost seems like a different person.