Originally Posted by
kale 
Withstand the extreme disappointment of in-laws and family alike. Look like the bad guy. Le sigh.
Sending hugs, Kale. When I first left AXH, who was abusive, I had to remind myself that _I_ knew the truth of what our relationship was, how _he_ was. That I'd lived with the extremes his drinking caused. Just because his family and new girlfriend didn't believe it, didn't take away the truth.
My family eventually understood more. AXHs family... *shrug* His now-ex GF found out far more than she wanted and has a restraining order against him.
I'm not comparing your AH with my AXH, just wanted to say: Just remember that they haven't had to live with his drinking the way you have. You know what it was like.
Wishing you peace and continued strength.