I came here because my son was addicted and I hoped that someone would tell me how to fix it.....give me the recipe for the magic potion....or tell me exactly what to do so that all could be "ok" again.
I also started going to Al-Anon --off and on....for the same reasons.
Eventually figured out that I needed to be "fixed" and only I could do that. So I worked on me. It is an ongoing effort.
I stay because there are others who are in as much anguish as I was when I first came. And it's 12th step stuff.
The new people who come here are so very important to me.....they help me to never forget where I was and how far I've come. Those who have been here a very long time show me how far I have to go.
gentle hugs
ke