How to "Break Up" with a therapist?
Thanks for your support everyone, it's been nice to hear from people lately. I am having a few confusing times, but nothing serious regarding a relapse or anything. Just trying to find my niche.
So I have been seeing an addiction therapist for a few weeks. Our last appointment was supposed to be Monday, and she called 2 hours before the appointment to cancel. Weird - I can see ME doing that, but not her! She has this cancellation policy too for her patients, which is 24 hours in advance, which she made very clear to me upon our start....kinda crappy but that's not the real issue.
She is not only a therapist, but also a marriage councilor and a "licensed HypnoTherapist". This is a bit off-putting, as I am a science and results-based person when it comes to my addiction. I have done stuff like that before and it's not my thing. Anyway, she is kind of elderly, and I can tell she's not quite in touch with a lot of things that I'm dealing with. She also can treat me like a child - she says things like "oooh, you're a little sneaky one" when I was talking about hiding my feelings, etc. She has me do homework and exercises that I did while in treatment, and while repetition is okay, I am looking for new ideas and inspiration. She also gave me a sheet of paper copied from a book written in 1980 and asked me to study the information. It was somewhat relevant but I'd seen it before, and once again it was helpful but not eye-opening.
In short, it's not a great fit. So I am moving on to a psychologist and a new addiction therapy plan in addition to getting involved in RR and AVRT stuff.
I used to "break up" with professionals like this by just not showing up. It's my MOA and not a good one. But I feel weird talking to her about not wanting to see her anymore. Do I tell her I'm feeling better and thanks for everything but I'm done? Should I say I don't think it's working out? I think the best way would just be to keep it short and sweet, thanks for everything but adios. Anyway, feedback is helpful if you have any. Gracias.