These responses are very important, illuminating. Even while trying to always keep an open mind, in this relatively closed, protected environment of secrecy and fear, not much gets past that barrier anymore.
Each of you presented an extremely relevant point, I won't elaborate, it's self-evident to me, and if anyone else reads this and is open to receive, well how wonderful is that.
And I appreciate further that you three took a moment to offer your thoughts. The protection barriers I construct serve a purpose well, but also tend to isolate and restrict.