Originally Posted by
choublak 
I would get so mad because I took it as a form of disrespect...as an insult to my intelligence.
I understand that very well - I've asked AH on more than one occasion when he tries to hide his drinking from me, "Do you
really think I'm that stupid??" It took awhile for me to realize this behavior is not about fooling me - it's about him fooling himself.
Cheap vodka is also my AH's choice of drink, for a couple of reasons: first, it's cheap. He used to be a rum and Diet Coke kind of guy, but we made some major changes to our diet a couple of years ago and no longer drink soda. Now it's vodka in tomato juice, or occasionally apple cider, in the mornings and vodka in unsweetened ice tea the rest of the time. It's so much more healthful, don't you know.