So sorry for your loss Patsy.
:ghug3
I am so pleased that you were able to be there at such a special time.
Leave the mad family to do their thing.
(They will anyway)
Since they have given you the info on the funeral, take that as an invitation.
Of course the decision to go is absolutely yours.
If you want to go, go.
You already had a special goodbye.
If you are not up to it, you can organize a little memorial with your own circle.
Very sorry for your loss.