when I left my alcoholic husband, my youngest had just turned 13. I asked her how she felt and got a shoulder shrug and "I don't know".
I suggested she use basic words to describe her feelings: like sad, mad, glad, scared, etc.
She chose "sad".
I was then able to share with her that I thought that was a normal feeling. I assured her that she is okay. That her feelings are okay.
So how are you feeling Dekalb?