PohsFriend,
Hahaha first off I was halfway through your post before I realized what EW meant.
I like what you have said and I KNOW that part of my reaction is being filtered through past experiences.
I agree with the concept of stonewalling, i think that is real and also the reactions from the other party were partly out of frustration.
Tomorrow I have alot to talk about with my therapist and yes like other people I certainly have to work harder to sort out if MY reaction to something is NORMAL or off the beam.
I am going to read those ten cognitive distortions. Thanx!