Update
Hi SR friends.
Thought I'd fill you in in case you were wondering.
Still in touch with xabf. Have seen each other twice & have been in touch with email & text.
He is on day 20 now.
A couple of nights ago he really struggled with itchy skin, a few days prior he struggled with self esteem.
I continue to support him.
I also continue to live my life & I will not run to him.
I am very much using my one day at a time as I know realistically anything could happen.
I'm waiting to see if he will remain sober & I am leaving him to face it himself with encouragement from me. I've told him he must put his sobriety & health first.
This weekend he seemed to have been dying to see me but I wouldn't because none of my family, my girls included, know I'm in touch with him again & I'm not ready to tell them until I have more time & action.
I feel this time I have more power & I'm not willing to sacrifice my life for him.
I have my life & I will live it very much in the present one day at a time.