Hi tenmiles. I'm glad you joined us. As Dee said, the Friends & Family Forum is great. There are many in a similar situation - you're not alone. It's good you've reached out for some help.
I've been on both sides of this thing. I lost my alcoholic husband many years ago. I didn't know what I was dealing with back then - I was the classic enabler. Always making excuses and trying to cover up what was going on. Nothing I said or did ever stopped my husband from feeding his addiction. He'd been at it since he was 15 & was in his 30's when we parted. Still drinking, still trying to manage it. Unless your partner wants to stop, all you can do is get help for yourself - maybe consider attending Al-Anon meetings. Joining SR will help you greatly, too. Please let us know how you're doing.