Originally Posted by
ave 
you chose to do drugs instead of dealing with your life, so you need to deal with the consequences. I can't keep softening your bottom."
this is spot on.....you are lessening his chances of recovery by ANY help you give him. I know....easy for me to say & hard for you to do.
in the meantime, while he tries to get sober, Alanon or Families Anonymous are great fellowships that can help you to stop feeling guilty about his issues & work on your own happiness.
maybe he'll come around, but you take care of yourself whether he does or not.