Originally Posted by
PohsFriend 
My childhood gave me several quirks that are either devastatingly good tools when applied right or major character flaws when applied under duress.
This is one of the most eloquent characterizations of codependence I've ever read. It's really not our character traits that determine whether we are codependent, it's how they manifest in our behavior.
PF, have you ever read "Getting the Love you Want" by Harville Hendrix? It was positively enlightening to me when I was still trying to make my marriage work.
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