Hey Manz great on your time, reminds me I am 20 months tomorrow.
Re the coffee- coffee is coffee- someone has to suggest something- might as well be you !! I do not think it is a biggie- showing your hand is always leaving the potential for rejection- so naturally playing it cool is sensible. But then if you are too cool they get discouraged etc etc etc so who knows..................but we feel for ya
Bear in mind this is advice from a man who is having trouble getting his marriage going again !!!!! so I am hardly the font of all wisdom on these matters