In order to accept something, we don't have to like it. That's where I often stumbled. I thought acceptance meant liking or approving of the situation.
YES! Accepting just means you stop fighting reality.
Doesn't mean you can't look for answers to the "why?" if you're so inclined.
But when I looked for answers to "why?" I was really looking for the
"so I can fix it" and accepting I
couldn't was almost as hard as accepting the way things were.