Originally Posted by
CentralOhioDad 
Omy job is to find out why something isn't working and fix it.
Me too. But I'm qualified for my job. When it came to fixing Mel I was neither qualified or responsible for that.
Addicts do what addicts do because they are chemically, physically and psychologically dependent on a drug that alters brain chemistry among many other things. That is the root cause of your wife's suffering, plain and simple.
Your job to do is solve the problem of how you will deal with your suffering.