Oh, Loving Enabler....
His behavior towards you is not about you, at all....
When I first broke up with boyfriend, we spoke about 4 months later and had a really decent conversation...
However...fast forward 6 months later....
(My therapist suggested I wait 6 months)
We spoke for about 5 min and all I got were one word
answers too....
In fact, it didn't even sound like him...
Actually, it was really sad...
Just to briefly re-cap, I was his crush in Middle School and MANY years later, he finally had the courage to look me up and ask me out...
(Sigh)
I can say with 100% certainty that I will never regret reaching out to him and encouraging him to seek help...
Maybe someday he will look back and understand that all me and my family were trying to do was help him...
Or maybe he won't....
Either way, I have learned that the only person I can change is me....
Don't beat yourself up....
You're allowed to have feelings about all of this...
Remember, his one word answers are indicative of him numbing out his pain with alcohol...
You, on the other hand, are facing your feelings head-on and that my friend, takes lots of courage....
I hope you are doing better...