as a woman that tolerated abuse for far too long I want to applaud you for shutting the door on this relationship NOW. It takes what it takes for us to get there - but now you are there and it's a GREAT thing!
I'm glad that you are going to seek out help for you. I hate to admit it but this was not the first abusive relationship that I ended up in. I've had to dig really deep and take a look at myself and figure out why I don't believe/accept/get that I deserve better. I've been trying to heal really old wounds by choosing heels that create even more wounds. Not a good way to go about things! Anyway....
So glad that you posted this and that you have ended things. Stick to it...recognize that your mind might play tricks on you and try to convince you that things really "weren't all that bad". They were, they are, they will be.
Happy New Year!