When do you say enough is enough?
I've got a sad codie story.
I was with my ex-ABF for a period of about 3 weeks up until December 29 (which was my birthday). We spent a lot of time together (you could call it the honeymoon phase) but suddenly after Christmas he started getting mouthy, rude and aggressive.
I'll admit that I provoked him because he was drinking again, using a gift card he stole from my purse and lied about using (i saw the purchases online) and I was very upset at him and confronted him.
So we got into a huge argument and he shoved me. I'll admit he's said and done some pretty stupid sh*t but he has never touched me like that before.
The codie in me actually TOOK it. I'm surprised I didn't walk out right there and then but it wasn't until the 29th, when he was supposed to meet me for my birthday, he decided to not show up (he was busy doing 'other' things) and when I got upset about it, he shoved me out of his room multiple times while calling me horrible names, slammed a door on my hand and nearly broke it, then harassed me the entire time I walked home at 1:00 in the morning (he got out of his vehicle and tried to intimidate me by shoving me while I was trying to walk by him)
I told myself I had enough.
I got home and spoke to my parents, and told him if he doesn't leave me alone then I'm calling the police.
I blocked all his incoming calls/texts, now he's been emailing me constantly but I am not letting myself feel sorry for him anymore. Which is what my problem was, the codie in me couldn't say "NO" to him, no matter how much of a jerk he was, I always felt bad for him. I know I sound like a total harsh person to him but I don't care anymore.
I don't have to show my love and support through anyone that thinks calling me a c*nt, wh*re, b*tch and physically hurting me are ways to show their love.
Forget it. That was just the icing on the cake, he never changed, he actually got progressively WORSE! And worse from verbal abuse to physical? No thank you. That isn't the life for me.
I'm trying to get into counseling as soon as I can afford it through my insurance, because I know I'm not healthy. I've seen many of my posts about my ex-ABF that no matter how hard I tried, I couldn't seem to shake him away. I don't want to fall back into the same pattern again. There is no way I can be with someone that treats people this way.
Never settle for less, never let them get away with calling you names or hurting you verbally or physically.
That was my breaking point when I said I can't save this relationship anymore, as tough as it sounds.