Wow how sad I could barely read through the tears.I know your pain. Mine hid is alcoholism so well that it wasn't till he quit a year ago that Interestingly I realized this has been the problem all along. He is a master at deception and I left him 6 years ago for one of his most hideous lies I found out.I lasted 40 days and took him back when he confessed the lie. Things were better for A couple years with therapy but still went back to same distant behaviour. Hiding downstairs drinking for the most part. I spent most Christmas nights alone ,birthdays ,anniversarys ,holidays...oh we always went out for show but when it was time for affection or alone time he was downstairs drinking while I thought he was watching tv. He is an obsessed Christian always reading bible and never misses church. Everytime my daughter is physically mentally abusive to me he cowers and does nothing to help. I have to call police and handle all responsibility and discipline. I have had my car stollen ,my tire slashed ,bruises that took weeks to heal etc. No help. This last onslaught of abuse by my daughter and no help has led me to ask him to leave.I know sounds crazy but she is so angry about her past she takes it out on me and has a lot of problems. I know I shouldnt feel sorry for her but i do. She was spanked a lot by him and manipulated.Our pastors are working with keeping us together I don't get it. They feel Because hes willing God can heal.Mytherapist thinks otherwise.Ilost the ability to trust God for awhile and I am working to get that back.rah is going to AA first one yesterday. Trying anything as well.But now taking benzos.He has had porn addiction in the past too.I have been going to church and the last few sermons have been on commitment ,forgiveness .No signs for me to leave.But I have been asking for truth to be revealed and its coming tenfold. I'll pray for you and hugs to you.