Originally Posted by
kvqdjmw 
do you think that because he says he wants help and recognizes that he has a problem that he is likely to eventually do what needs to be done? i want to believe he will so badly but at this point for me i dont want him to tell me i want him to show me.
KVQ - I believe that someone who really wants help and recognizes they have a problem is more likely to do it.
I also know that the A can say things they don't mean - Its a term called QUACKING and you will see it used on the forum often.
Actions speak louder than words - until he has gone for help then its just words.
For me lowering my expectations to nothing was critical as the bursting of my bubble was too painful every other day, or every 3 days, or however long it took (which wasn't long when RAH was relapsing). When I accepted and expected the worst I was able to detach and work on myself, focus on myself and leave him to his own devices without guilt or worry.