Each person has to determine for themselves what is the best path for them in their relationship with their loved one who is using alcohol or drugs.
It is never cookie cutter, 1,2,3...
Educating yourself about addiction, codependency and working your own recovery give you a leg up on wise decision making.
There is nothing wrong with setting up rigid, strong boundaries and standards for recovery for a loved one but it does put extra stresses on the family and forcing recovery has much lower success rates than self motivated recovery efforts.
But... getting an addicts head full of recovery and AA does have an impact and it makes getting high a lot less fun... my XA told me that AA and recovery ruined his addiction
