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I'm feeling guilty about how I expressed my pride in them to them. Is that codie or what?

Since their father left they have all had peace. They have not been subjected to listen to drunken, rambling speeches or lectures when trying to do homework. They have not been woken up at stupid o'clock in the morning because their father wanted to treat us and the neighbors to his "fine" vocal rendition of "Purple Haze".

So when I was congratulating them on their recent achievements I think I went a bit codie.

For example: "See what you can do when you work hard, focus on yourself and don't make excuses" (in my head I was SCREAMING "UNLIKE your father").

and when I said: "Us lot are amazing! We get up everyday and go to school and work even when we don't feel like it. We do what we say we are going to do. We try our best and do our best and look at the results, we achieve great things because we just do the best we can and stick to our goals" (in my head I was SCREAMING "UNLIKE your father".) Despite the chaos in our lives the kids and I have all soldiered on and had some great achievements. We really ROCK!

The kids aren't stupid. They know I couldn't stand their father's lies, excuses for not doing things and lies to his work about being "sick". I don't hound the kids about doing homework or getting A grades or winning everything so I guess that's a positive.

So why do I feel all codie and guilty for stating the truth - that if you work hard and keep your word and do what you say you will do, good things usually happen? Is it because I wanted to say UNLIKE your father?