The thing I have learned is that we are all very different.
Even though we grew up in the same house, because of birth order, personality type etc, we react differently.
I couldn't understand for the longest time why my siblings and I were not really close due to having grown up in a dysfunctional house.
Now, I realize we all had different experiences.
I try to be the peacemaker and talk to everyone, and get mangled in between at times.
Now, I am getting smarter. Still upsets me though.
Dreading Christmas as usual. Now, at least, there are grandkids to distract from the BS.