I want to call the sponsor myself, but isn't that kind of invasive? And he wouldn't maybe tell me anything, anyway?
As to the restraining order. it is different over here. The judge is looking over the information and will decide about what actions to take. The police want to talk with my AH when he arrives on Saturday. The authorities here don't feel the need to tell me more than that. It's not in my control, really. If my AH gets violent again, then I call the police and he is in pretty big trouble. Not something I want to wait around for during the holidays.