i thank you for posting this. i need a reminder evry now and then of what i was.
welp, these are suggestions comin from my side( yer husband, who sounds a lot like me):
he is a sick man, but dont believe a dam thinG. what his motives are for saying he wants help? welp, for me when i did that in the past it was a huge lie to get people off my back.
you dont have to stay on the train ride. the best move everyone who was ever associated with me made was to throw me out of their lives. the day after my last drunk, it was my then fiance telling me what i had done and said in ablackout, then telling me,"get out! pack your **** and get the **** out!" that got it through my head i had a serious problem and it was then that i finaly completely admitted i wanted help...for me.